What is it with us humans that when the person we love is cheating on us all we want to do is beat the crap out of the person he/she is cheating with. Would he not be the more sensible target? But then, there is that little thing called jail.
A friend of mine had a genius response to her cheating spouse. She neatly packed all his stuff and personally delivered it to the porch of the other woman. She then changed the locks, and did not take his calls. I think he was more shocked with the calmness of her demeanor than the unloading of his stuff on that porch.
He is still scratching his head.
-PR
3/03/2013
Great! I love this response. And I honestly think the reason we’re more angry with the person he/she cheated with than with the cheater is because on some level we still love him/her and we can’t process that we now hate them as well. So we turn our attention to the relative unknown, the one he/she cheated with. Sad, but true.
You are right. I also think that if the focus is on the other party you feel less like a lunatic for having given your heart to such a person in the first place. It may all come down to self preservation.